Personal/Life Stuff
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BDSM Test- What’s Changed Since 2022!
Good day you kinky weirdos! If you’ve been following me for a while then you’ll remember that last year I did the BDSM test and wrote about the results on my blog. If not then you can find that particular post here if you’d like to refresh your memory. Even if you don’t want to, part of what I’ll be doing today is looking at what has changed in terms of my kinks over the last year, so if you’re feeling lazy it’s all good bestie, I got you! Now as I said in the previous blog, I think it’s important to assess your sexual kinks every year or so.…
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Twelve Days of Kinkmas!!
Welcome to official Christmas Season my darlings! How have we gone another full rotation around the sun already? It doesn’t seem that long since I last put up my Christmas tree and gave my cats festive catnip mice (they have red and green scarves and little winter hats). Well, we are back here again, regardless of the wibbly wobbly nature of timey wimey stuff and this year I’m doing things a little more low-key. I’ve haven’t had any professional photoshoots on the run up to the festive season, instead choosing to do my own photography. I’ve not had much in the way of content prepped in advance either, mostly choosing…
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Let’s Do the BDSM Test!
If you want to know more about you as a kinkster, or even just you as a sexual being, then a good place to start is The BDSM Test. The BDSM test is exactly what it says on the tin, and will ask you a series of questions on activities associated with kink, BDSM and sex in general. All the questions are answered on a sliding scale to give the most accurate results. Even if you don’t think you are kinky at all, or you think you know your kinks pretty well, it’s a good tool to explore and see a side of yourself you may never have considered before.…
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Ten Small Things That Make Me Melty!
Yup, it’s another one of these posts! Today we’re going to talk about ten small actions/words/behaviours during sex or foreplay that I find a huge turn on. These are all SMALL things. There won’t be a random statement like “oral sex is a turn on”, so don’t expect that. I’m specifically talking about the little tiny things that can take you from 0-100 in an instant. The things that make your knees weak and your breath catch. The things without which sex would probably suck! This is just my personal list and I recommend that you make your own. Knowing yourself is just as much a vital part of creating…
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Once Upon a Time I Had Writers Block
Once upon a time there was a girl sitting in a coffee shop. She was drinking copious amounts of tea, while pouting and huffing about the fact that she has been suffering from crippling writers block. While looking at the 15+ drafts in her blog she felt completely uninspired to complete any of them. It was like they were staring back at her screaming “finish meeee!!” Regardless of the amount of work-in-progress posts that were gathering dust, none of them really hit on anything she was actually in the mood to write about. A clever reader would inform this poor human that it’s because she needs to write for her…
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The Story of a Man and Three Women (MFFF)
It’s been a while since I’ve written about my actual sex life, so I think it’s time I remedied that. You’ve heard about my first swinging meet before, so now I’m going to tell another story, with the same man involved, as well as two wonderful women in my life. Yup, you know what’s coming! It’s a group sex blog post! Feel free to stop reading now if you don’t want to read about that sort of thing… Ok, are the weird people that don’t want to hear about a horny MFFF foursome gone? Perfect! Then we can get started. To maintain the anonymity of these wonderful humans, I will…
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Sex in the Media Conference, Dundee 2022- The Speech I Deviated MASSIVELY From
Unless you missed my posts about it, you’ll know that on Saturday the 19th of February I was on the panel at the Sex in the Media Conference in Dundee. I was so honoured to be part of a panel of such amazing people, all of whom are wonderful examples of sex and kink positive educators, especially given I’ve only really been in the industry for a year. I was only told I was going to be speaking on the Tuesday before the conference, so I didn’t have the time to put together a full PowerPoint presentation. Instead I decided that I wanted to use the opportunity to talk about…
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A Summary of 2021
So the Bells have rung and 2021 is now behind us, leaving me feeling reflective. I could be one of those people who are delightfully upbeat and optimistic about the idea of the New Year, with all the potential it could bring… but I’m not one of those people. You’ll get no resolutions from me in 2022, or in any year for that matter. If you can’t keep to a personal challenge the rest of the year, why would making one on January 1st be any different? I prefer to always strive to be a better throughout the year, instead. Enough of that though. This post isn’t about my views…
